Neither. I analyze both of their feelings to see the fault in their fights. But if this was about giving advice, still neither. I ask both of them and my dad may give a pessimistic advce and my mom would do so too, so I just go outside and ask people who are in the same situation I am in. My parents told me to do this and that, but I didn't listen and I am still on the good side of the road. I'm not saying I don't believe them, but that it's still my life and they are just there to guide me and help me.