[i]There are plenty of people who are good at picking up girls, but they aren't good at explaining what they do. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you're either destined to be good with girls, or you aren't. This is a skill anyone can learn. [/i] [b]1.[/b] [b]Don't get sucked in to thinking that you can only find girls to date when you're out at a party or at the bar or pub:[/b] They're on the street, in a store, in class, everywhere you go. [b]2. Do something original: [/b]A really pretty girl has people telling her all the time how hot she is, how cute she is, how nice she is. and she's gotten used to empty compliments. If you become the next guy to come up and tell her how pretty she is, she'll appreciate the compliment, but she won't find you attractive. Remain calm and casual. Make a little joke at her expense. For instance, you could say something like "Wow, that's a big purse! Do you have a gun in there?" or if she's dressed up "I like your shoes...they look really comfortable". Refrain from comments on her appearance. Though telling a woman that she is attractive is a great idea. Most men never actually ever try it, and come to think of it I said it to a woman once and she offered me to go the beach with her. [b]3. Be yourself:[/b] If you've ever asked a girl what to do to meet a girl, she'll probably say "just be yourself." You may think that means that if you feel nervous, and that you want to tell her again how pretty she is (for the 40th time) that you should, but that's NOT what she means. She means to treat her normally almost like one of your guy friends. If you're at the bar, and she asks you to get her a napkin, she's probably just asking to see if you'll jump through a hoop for her. Don't do it! You wouldn't break your back to do that for one of your good friends: don't treat her differently! Showing you care about yourself makes you valuable especially now when things are tight. [b]4. Keep up the banter: [/b]Once you're talking, keep it up. You may want to come up with some stories about you that are funny or interesting, or that display an interesting side to you. Try to not fall into the interview technique (asking things like: What do you do? Where do you live? Where did you go to school? If you're stuck, turn those interview questions into statements, like "You look like you're from Rome" or "I bet you're an event planner") [b]5. Ask for her number:[/b] After a few minutes, if you're having a good time, cut things off on a high note, and ask for her number. Say that you're having a great time, but you need to get back to your friends (or whatever else you were about to do before you started talking to her). If she says she doesn't want to give you her number, you can joke with her and say that you promise to only call her 50 times a day, but that's all. You could also just get her email address (almost everyone has one, and is OK with handing it out, especially for a charming guy like yourself) [b] 6. Text her as you're leaving the venue, then call her the next day:[/b] The rule about waiting to call was made for guys who acted too needy on the first meeting. But here's the deal: if you *were* too needy, waiting to call isn't going to help all that much. And if you weren't, there's no reason you have to wait, and the girl is going to want to hear from you the next day. [b]7. Give her a nickname:[/b] If you call her "cutie" at the bar, then when you call her you can say "Hey, cutie... it's me." instead of "Umm, this is (your name). We met at the bar the other night." [b]8. If it seems like you're being too needy, you probably are:[/b] You don't have to text or call her every day, especially in the beginning. It's safe to take a step back (if needed) and not disappear completely.