It's really hard for someone to move on after breakup.. So for me, it's really necessary to give atleast a valid reason for breaking up.. or else it will make someone's life miserable. [quote=Tres;#373320;1383483552]Although I tried offering an explanation when I broke up with an ex. She didn't want to hear it and I felt a bit taken aback. It actually felt like my act of respect was rejected. I listened to her and didn't explain further.[/quote] Maybe she's already expecting that breakup.. or maybe she is a daughter of a fortune-teller

[quote=Tres;#373320;1383483552]Although I tried offering an explanation when I broke up with an ex. She didn't want to hear it and I felt a bit taken aback. It actually felt like my act of respect was rejected. I listened to her and didn't explain further.[/quote] I've been on that situation for so many times. For me, a break up is the end of everything, since on my part, it was them who always initiated the break up so once they said that "Raph, let's call it quits..this isn't not working anymore". That's my cue to exit, they were trying to explain further but I refused to listen because it hurts me more and I already understand that they were not happy anymore so I let them go right away. [i]Ganun ako kadali kausap.[/i] --- Love issue of unfinished businesses.. For me, it should be necessary. If you're going to hurt someone, give it your kill shot, [i]iwanan mo nang patay.[/i] No doubts. No open endings. This is of course, is ideal. In an ideal world people will tell us their intentions, their plans, their rationales. But that's too far from reality, there are people who just don't care to give you an ending, there are people who don't want to be the reason of the ending and there are people who don't want to be tagged as the "bad guy" in the relationship that's why they chose to leave you hanging in the midair. Now, if you're one those people left with such a big question, do not look for an answer. It will never be given. You must learn to accept that some questions are best answered with [i]"I don't know"[/i]. A good thing life is an exam with no answer key, you can make your own answer. So instead of asking yourself [i]"Why?"[/i] Give yourself the honor of answering the question with [i]"Kasi I am a great guy and I deserve better."[/i]

[quote=mrjpc07;#373352;1383491884]Maybe she's already expecting that breakup.. or maybe she is a daughter of a fortune-teller [/quote] Hahahaha she predicts rather well sometimes, infairness but yeah it was expected. But I needed to give her that explanation because I never gave that to my exes. And she used to be a friend (which can be related to @michiiella's and @chaw's answers [quote=michiiella;#373413;1383554238]Really? What was her reaction at that time? Was she shouting at you or was she indifferent?[/quote] Yeah.. But nahh, she's not the kind that shouts when she's upset. She wasn't indifferent, either. Her reaction was nowhere near the [i]I don't care[/i] attitude. It turned out her reason for it was answered by pareng @rph [quote=rph;#373438;1383570562]I've been on that situation for so many times. For me, a break up is the end of everything, since on my part, it was them who always initiated the break up so once they said that "Raph, let's call it quits..this isn't not working anymore". That's my cue to exit, they were trying to explain further but I refused to listen because it hurts me more and I already understand that they were not happy anymore so I let them go right away. [i]Ganun ako kadali kausap.[/i][/quote] she actually said something like that. It was something like [i]Gusto mo magbreak na tayo, okay tapos.[/i] I appreciate that part where you know when to let go. But, bro, wouldn't [i]not[/i] knowing the real reason behind it hurt more? I'm genuinely curious about that. Because if I were in your shoes, I'd lose my mind every night thinking about why she broke up with me [quote=rph;#373438;1383570562]But that's too far from reality, there are people who just don't care to give you an ending, there are people who don't want to be the reason of the ending and there are people who don't want to be tagged as the "bad guy" in the relationship that's why they chose to leave you hanging in the midair.[/quote] It's undeniable, it's hard to face someone in a confrontation when you're the one who brought it up in the first place. Some guys find it easier to escape the problem than deal with it. Besides, whether or not the guy explains, it nearly always comes to a conclusion that he's the "bad guy" when he's the one who wanted to break up

Yes closure is important but not necessary. [i]Ano daw?[/i] lol I mean it depends on the situation of your relationship and the reason of your breakup. In my past relationships I'm the one who pursued for breakup (this is most of the time only but not always. K?) But now, in my recent relationship t'was only a week ago, I was the one who's left in dust and it hurts like hell! Sad to admit that when I was about to get serious karma bounces back. So closure is important for some peace of mind at least.

It is totally necessary.