yes and its ok to spank.

i was spanked a lot by my parents during my childhood because i was so stubborn

I forgot the reasons but i can remember how usual they spank me. hair comb, walis tambo, hanger, belt.. I don't know if it's right to spank children but i believe it is not the rightest thing to do to discipline them. Like me, I don't think i've been disciplined by that kind of way, fear and [i]sama ng loob[/i] can be built inside a child's heart because of over-spanking

mahn! this is completely normal for me during childhood days. Like I was being stuborn/selfish and stuff That's why, I have learned stuffs the right way. That's how you discipline your children. But inorder to do this, the other parent must be on "your" side. So as to let you know what's wrong. And after the spanking, of course you should also make "lambing" that's how our parents discipline us on a side note. My neighbor's disciplinary method is much cruel. They'll probably be put inside a sack of rice and hang em in a tree with some smoke underneath

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my mom used to hit me when i made mistakes. i love my mom but that kind of physical punishments she did only created anger and frustration and imagination of revenge in my mind. she only stopped after one day i was big enough i managed to deflect the broom stick and hit her back. if you hit someone weaker, sure you can make him/her comply. but that will not convey the actual message you want to send to your kids, especially younger kids who are still developing their mental and cognitive functions. kids would have a hard time to learn to resolve problems and conflicts in a proper non-violent human way. spanking is the worst of all, not only that it's physically violent but also sexually abusive.

My parents never hit/spanked me in my entire life. It's prolly cause i'm the youngest and also a menopausal baby or i'm the perfect daughter. i prefer the latter one ofc

Ma Dad left meh eversince I waz 6 yrs old...da whereabouts of ma Dad is unknown..I hope I meet him someday ...I use to be very playful...waakakaaa...ma Mum will usually threatened meh with a cane...she says if I dont do ma homework...she will strip meh naked and beat meh up with da cane...but she never ever tried beat meh up physically...coz she dont believe in such a thing...she told ma granny the more you beat em...the more stubborn they getz. But da cane lookz creepy when she hitz on da table...da cane broken into 2 pieces!

Believe it or not, I never tasted even a little smack when I was kid. Makes me think that maybe if they did hit me, i wouldn't be such a pain in the ass for them. Depends. Every parent has their own way of teaching their children good behavior. If they're really stubborn, well crap, a little ass kicking won't scar them fo life.

My dad used to hit me aaalll the time. That's why we never forged a close relationship. One time I was so curious about what it feels to play outside so I asked my mom if I can go out and she said yes. So I played with the kids outside for almost an hour. Then my dad got home from the office and saw me barefoot playing [i]langit lupa[/i] and he got soooo mad that he dragged me inside the house and reprimanded me. Then he saw the fishball sauce stain on my shirt and damn, that was it. He lost it. He hit me with the buckle of his belt. Yup, not the leather. The buckle. My butt hurt for days I couldn't sit down properly. The weird thing was I never went outside again so I resorted to reading books and going back to dancing, acting, and singing. Even then, he got mad (and hit me a couple of times ). I never understood him then and now. My psychiatrist said that was probably one of the reasons why I have anxiety. And that I was an only child so I had it coming. My mom was... more gentle? Idk. She just "lamutak" my mouth whenever I try to reason out. She shouts, "[i]At sasagot ka pang lintek ka[/i]" as she does so. But I don't think parents should ever hit their children. That's why when I get to be a parent, I'll talk it out with my son(s)/daughter(s) like friggin lawyers in the supreme court. And spank is such a weird word to use. It has a sexual sound to my ears.

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[quote=chaw;#408680;1399793066]Yeah I ran away from home most of the time. /:[/quote] How old were you at that time? [quote=SkylineGoddess;#408677;1399792829]I never understood him then and now.[/quote] Maybe your dad loves you too much and he's bad at expressing it. He is way too over protective of you but yea fishball sauce is lethal these days. He wants the best for you that is why he is strict; he wants you to fear him so you would always listen to him.