[quote=theblottedmystery;#361236;1378488815]it's somehow like you are avoiding me.. what could be the reason ?[/quote] Maybe the guy sees how you're still so affected with your past relationship, and he doesn't like the idea. Maybe if you really like him you should start by deleting that picture of the one who left you and focus more on the new guy. Or maybe you just miss the attention the guys give you.

[quote=rph;#361318;1378525818]This is one thing I hate about these "pseudo-relationships" nowadays, you didn't plan to fall yet you already fell without knowing it. Anyways, maybe he already has a feeling for you and his avoidance was his way to keep himself from hurting any further. And if I were him, I would do the same. I wouldn't waste my time and invest emotions to people who still carry their emotional baggage up to the present.[/quote] You mean.. he did already fall? Truth is I don't know. He never really confessed his feelings to me. I never did too. It just shows on the way we act, the way we talk to each other. Those cheesiness. Carrying my bag. Preparing my food. Taking stolen shots of me. Putting his towel on my head when it rained. Hugging me secretly. Those crazy stuffs he do to make me smile ( because most of the times I feel quiet and out of this world because I miss the guy in my wallpaper, like I sit in the corner but he'll sit there and grab me then do some stupid silly things to make me smile. ) I never said that I like him. Maybe because I am scared..no I mean he never said he likes me, so I won't say it. I admit it. I'm a tough girl but when it comes to things like this, I feel so damn scared. Scared of getting hurt again. [quote=Pawws;#361322;1378528295]Maybe the guy sees how you're still so affected with your past relationship, and he doesn't like the idea. Maybe if you really like him you should start by deleting that picture of the one who left you and focus more on the new guy.[/quote] I'm quite uncertain about the 'focus on him' thingy. I don't even know if the jerk likes me. [quote=Pawws;#361322;1378528295]Or maybe you just miss the attention the guys give you.[/quote] Yes I do miss him. His craziness and everything. [quote=Tres;#361323;1378529701]What would you feel if the guy you like is still hungover from his previous lover/relationship? Wouldn't you doubt his attention and intentions to you? Wouldn't you hesitate acting on the attraction he seems to return? Wouldn't you start wondering how in the world does he still have his ex as his wallpaper? Wouldn't you feel like a rebound?[/quote] That would hurt. But as a guy, you should confess your feelings first right? But fyi . the guy is an NGSB . He never had a girlfriend before. Whenever he tries to court a girl he likes, the girl has a boyfriend. He's been hurt several times. He once admitted to me that he thinks every girl is 'paasa' , 'timer' and loves putting guys in the 'friendzone'. (not knowing he too, brought us in the same situation. ) I never had a boyfriend before too. The guy on my wallpaper is my suitor for two years. I loved him but everything forbids us to be together. I've been hurt a lot of times too. and I must admit, though I have so many guy friends That could be the reason why we are coward . [quote=Tres;#361323;1378529701]Now since you know how terrible it is to get hurt, and how insulting it is to be the possible "rebound" what would you do? You'd avoid him before any sort of affection comes into a deeper level, right? Imagine the guy feeling all that ^ Those are most likely why he's avoiding you.[/quote] Yes, me too . I'm scared to fall for him. He's too easy to fall in love with. But I know he would be so hard to forget. There are a bunch of girls who like him, I don't think he knows that. Now, he's entering the showbiz world, I think it'll be harder . Right? It just pains me to know that after having so much memories with that guy we suddenly became ultimate strangers. I hate it when I walk past him and I can't even look him in the eye. I hate it when there is an empty chair beside me and he sits somewhere else. I hate it when he comes to work and looks at me and when I catch him he would look away. I hate to see his face so down. I'm affected and I cannot explain why . I'm not certain of what I feel about him but this time, I feel so lonely without him . Until I see his posts, I really don't know if it's for me but .... it struck me straight to my heart. [spoiler][url=http://cosmopic.com/585v2807w575h172-9qbr-jpg-image.html][img]http://img585.imageshack.us/img585/2807/9qbr.jpg[/img][/url][/spoiler] [spoiler][url=http://cosmopic.com/822v3523w558h197-qjle-jpg-image.html][img]http://img822.imageshack.us/img822/3523/qjle.jpg[/img][/url][/spoiler] I don't know if it's for me because it's been really long since we last talked. About three weeks I guess. ... and I dont even know if that jerk likes another girl now. He doesn't even talk to me. Okay I'm so damn affected. Sorry for the long reply.

[quote=Tres;#361333;1378536164]Darling, take a hint. Even without confessions, it's obvious he likes you. Those aren't things you do to someone who's "just a friend."[/quote] What if he's just the 'pa-fall' type? I mean, there are a lot of guys like that. Right? Okay , I seem so 'manhid' .. but I think it's better to be called 'manhid' than assuming.. [quote=Tres;#361333;1378536164]One thing you must know about guys is, not all of us are ready to be emotionally naked. Besides, if he confessed, what would it be for? For what reason? A like/love profession would come off useless. Maybe he wants you to figure out that you like him too without the influence of his profession. And he already knows you're still trying to move on from your previous guy, so this all comes to @rph's answer[/quote] Yeah ..and I do believe that love is not a noun to be defined but a verb to be acted upon. I can feel his feelings but I'm afraid I only feel one sided love. Maybe he is just too friendly. [quote=Tres;#361333;1378536164]Maybe all you gotta do is understand him. I don't know about what others think but in my opinion, the guy did the right thing. You said it yourself, he's easy to fall in-love with and if you two ever get together, it'd be difficult.[/quote] Yes. It would be very difficult . Since our office doesn't allow office romance. [quote=Tres;#361333;1378536164]his guy's saving himself and saving you. He's saving himself from another heartbreak (because this poor guy has had one too many), and saving you from the burden of choosing between letting go of your previous lover and stress over taking a risk in being with this guy.[/quote] .... why am I so dumb that I didn't even think about that? [quote=Tres;#361333;1378536164]If you feel lonely without him, then it's up to you what you're going to do about it. You could follow @Pawws' advice and move on or stay with your past. But I hope you understand it's only natural that the guy doesn't talk to you after everything that happened (and by everything, I meant the things you just shared in this thread).[/quote] I don't know what is the right thing to do. To stay like this forever or to take courage and confess that I like him despite the conflicts and despite the fact that it could lead to shame. So confusing.

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[quote=rph;#361448;1378552655]@theblottedmystery - I think the only mistake that you guys did is you didn't talk about it. He did a lot of sweet stuff to you but you didn't bother to ask him "Why are you doing these things to me?" or "Why are you treating me like this?". There's no harm in asking esp if a guy starts to be flirtatious or sth because it was really hard to assume somebody's thought/actions (though it was so obvious that you have feelings for each other). Don't complicate things and learn how to ask so the next time this is going to happen, you won't be as confused as what you are right now.[/quote] yeah . thanks . [quote=rph;#361448;1378552655]you're 17?? Mag-aral ka muna teh.[/quote] I couldn't agree more .

[quote=theblottedmystery;#361330;1378534221]You mean.. he did already fall?[/quote] [i]Nde. Trip trip lang yun[/i].

^Dang gurl, i'm having a head ache bc of you. [spoiler]Anyway my only advice for you is this... Gurl, if you really like him then muster up your courage and confess [i]agad-agad[/i] before it's too late and he's already very popular with other girls! And please, wag mo siyang gawing 'reserba'. Kasi it seems to me that bc you're so fixated about your past relationship that you want it so bad to work, nababalewala mo na unintentionally yung feelings niya para sayo. Gurl, sinasayang mo lahat kasi you keep on obsessing about your past! Stop! What you're doing is, you keep hoping na magwo-work pa rin kayo ng past mo. And kung hindi na, okay lang, kasi nandyan naman yung bago mo. And now you're wallowing about him kasi he's dead and gone, and like you said, you're missing the attention he gave you kaya ganyan. Gurl I'm sorry to say this, pero it's all your fault this time, eh. :l Gurl be strong. Next time this happens and you like someone, like him alone at wala ng iba. Be loyal... like a dog. Hahahahah jk And btw, delete mo na talaga yang picture sa wallpaper mo. Iniwan ka pala eh, walang kwenta yan. Ang tunay na lalake, hindi nang-iiwan ng babae sa ere. Tsk, tsk. Kay, that's about all. [/spoiler]

[quote=Pawws;#362375;1378778317]^Dang gurl, i'm having a head ache bc of you. [/quote] [i]nakakangilo kamo ng bangs[/i] @jhade [spoiler]yeah..I agree with [b]them[/b] [/spoiler]

[quote=theblottedmystery;#361236;1378488815]Guys.. for example I have been close with this guy so fast.. then our friends thought we were dating.. you seem to like me, I seem to like you too.. it shows at the way we care about each other, the way we treat each other, the way we always want each other around. but then you knew about my past that I still cant move on with the guy who left me. then you suddenly said "yiee" and you caught that the guy was also my wallpaper. then still, we were so close... still spending times together... but all of a sudden, you cut the communication and whenever you see me , you act like a complete stranger .. ( but I always catch you staring at me) it's somehow like you are avoiding me.. what could be the reason ?[/quote] [spoiler][i]kalurkey![/i] But seriously, I know deep inside.. you know the reason why he did that. Why suddenly, he acted like a stranger to you. I agree with @rph.. that's the problem whenever you feel something to someone. You're close with that person, you act like lovers and stuff.. but still both of you don't confirm what your true feelings are. I'm a girl, too so, I know how you feel. Oftentimes, we are scared of decoding a guy's body language. I mean, it's hard to think of the real meaning of his actions but at the same time, it's hard to have that courage to ask as well. But you know, if you really like him and you hate how he treats you right now.. the only way you can change that is to talk to him. All the things we are saying here might not make you calm or understand what he really thinks. We are just sharing our opinions based on what we feel about it and on our experiences. We just give you ideas of what he MIGHT feels but for you to really understand him.. you have to ask him. Clear things to him but I must say, you have to be ready for consequences or outcomes of that confrontation. [i]Dumugo na ilong ko![/i] [/spoiler]

[spoiler]^ Yes yes yes and yes Apparently if the guy is 'serious' about you, he gets really worked up when he finds out there's another guy who's trying to steal your attention from him. And to jhade: Just move on, or if you already did, find another guy who's willing to accept you despite your past. Other than that, studies first I prioritize my studies way too much hahahha[/spoiler]

[quote=Pawws;#362595;1378864168]@t: So... do you guys get jealous of other guys too? And if yes, do you get intimidated by their presence?[/quote] [spoiler]This is kinda funny. Because my girlfriend and I just had a little argument last week about this issue. To answer your question, yes we do get jealous. Not necessarily all the time though. For example, almost every time it's all good clean fun but guys tend to get jealous when they feel like there's more to it than clean fun. That's where we lose our temper. We get intimated and angry my friends. [/spoiler] [quote=Pawws;#362639;1378869970]Kasi diba, us girls get intimidated with other girls when we see them. Like what they wear, or how they speak, we sometimes wish we were like them. You know, the usual things girls do when we see another female specie close to our own, we check them from h to t... right? Or is it just me? Uyyy, aminin na. So do you guys also do that?[/quote] Yep. Guys do that. [i]Lalo pag pogi tsaka pogi magdala. Tapos under their shirt, buwakanginang abs. patay kami don.[/i] When you girls tell your boyfriends about your crushes, sa loob loob namen naiintimidate kami.